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Instead of amplifying another’s faults (and pointing them out)… tell them what it is they are doing orderly and well that is what you admire about them.
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***This is especially important regarding the way parents interact with their children. Far too many parents say things like: “Joe, you didn’t clean your room; stop being such a slob and clean your room.” Well, in psychology, there is a thing called “The Labeling Theory”; that principle maintains that people (especially “youth”) may incorporate the labels placed on them and (subsequently) use those labels as “self images.” So, if parents tend to call their child a “slob” enough times… there is a good chance that such labeling may contribute to the child becoming more lazy and indifferent… due to an internal mechanism of being (and fulfilling) what was implanted as a self-image. Please… refrain from the negative labels… and whenever they do the smallest good, tell them how caring, helpful, and considerate they are!***
[A green Katydid of the genus Scudderia, moving through the labyrinth of life, helpfully carrying pollen along the way.]
You tread well among the lilies! Photo by Thomas Peace 2014
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